Long Distance Relationships

Challenging and difficult, though they may not be what we want to hear, are the words that best describe long distance relationships. I heard many people say distance matters, and long distance relationships never work………Distance cannot, and will not hurt a bond between two people that is based on mutual respect, trust, commitment, and love this is what I do believe.. Although you may feel like you are losing faith in your relationship at times, hold fast and trust your heart! a real advice sourced from various sources.

You'd have to be a serious commitment-phobe to choose to live hundreds -- or even thousands -- of miles away from the man you love. But sometimes it's just not up to you. Career, studies and family are just a few of the factors that keep lovers whispering sweet nothings into phones instead of each other's ears. For girls, specially girls life is far more different as they crib on any small matter, they are highly emotional, completely impractical according to other sex…man………its so unearthy and if the boys by any chance cribs they will go gag a.. and all roothna manana affairs may or may not start.. in short life become all the more complicated….

I, like others, truly believe that love & relationships are what make our life special, and that ones built on love & understanding are always worth preserving, regardless of the miles that may separate two people. It's not simple, but it's not impossible -- and these five tips can help:

1. Be clear about expectations up front: - Don't wing plan ahead……………but boys don't love it in a planned fashion, that's another issue
   
2. Express yourself: Power of touch is completely out of the relationship.. its difficult to stay connected, so I believe couple has to figure out how can they keep the partner cherished. Share the day to day events going on in each other lives.
   
3. Enjoy your independence: this is again a problem.. b'coz most the guys think their girlfriends are invading into their private space. and bla bla. I feel girls never do so, they always allow them to grow as an individual, but expect them to committed in the relationship.
   
4. Keep the faith:
   Yes, it's rough being apart, but harping on the negative can take a toll on the relationship. I feel, "Instead of moaning that you never see each other, talk about the interesting things you've been doing and ask what he's up to." This will help in two ways: He won't think you're obsessed with the relationship, and you won't be obsessed. The happier you act with your life, the happier you'll actually feel.
   
5. Spice up the long distance lovin: based on mutual desires
   

This is also often assumed according to guys that girls have egos larger than life, they say you anything, they laugh at your stupid jokes but never try to understand your deep commitment, your sacrifices and amount of understanding you do not show off, but you do have. Girls take care of these issues and your life will be beautiful like a flower. Its easy for girls to accept their mistakes, but believe me for boys it's a larger than life issue, it go to their nerves to accept it and rectify it…..girls beware you have to bear the same as well.

Even after the commitment and continuous promise you can expect no time, quite often irresponsible behavior, forgetting things, doing often what you don't like or what you asked not to do. And many such small stuff in quoted language….but but………………even after that he loves you like anything and you believes him. It is a true love and do not in any way try to spoil it…………Accept it and change yourself…………

Indeed, couples in LDRs report the same levels of intimacy, trust, commitment and satisfaction as geographically close couples." It's confirmed: Absence really does make the heart grow fonder. I hope the other person understands the same.

I am not a relationship counselor. I am not a psychologist, psychiatrist or therapist of any kind. My advice comes from my own experience and the shared experiences of my friends. It's basic. Common sense, really. You just have to recognize when your rational side is on vacation because your heart is involved. Somehow even the smartest people fall victim to the paranoia brought about when you put yourself, and your heart, on the line.

Your views invited.

 

Love,

Dr. Cutie PieJ